No, I won’t listen to, admire and applaud a rapist

TW: sexual violence Forgiveness: the act of forgiving or the willingness to forgive. Forgive: to stop blaming or feeling angry with someone for something that person has done or not punish them for something. http://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/forgiveness Well, here we are. It has been days since I wanted and needed to write about it but I couldn't …

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Don’t get raped or don’t rape? … A locked pants story

TW! So, as you have probably already seen in the media those last days, a German company has created an anti-rape pants. Wow! I do not put any link as you probably know what it is about and you can easily find it anyways. The pants come with coded lock and loud alarm in case …

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Our silence makes them stronger

Beside the assaults themselves, the most painful for me was the silence. I always wanted to speak up, to scream to get all the pain out. I just couldn't. The assaults by themselves were so traumatic that they let me in shock and voiceless. Really. I froze and disconnected like a lot of people do …

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I have a lot of respect for women, but I gonna spank you

Once again, I had to block a "suggested video" of Facebook. A video of the new trailer of the fifty shit of abuses. Once again, I have been told that what I experienced and made me suffer until now, what required me to be in therapy and gives me horrendous flashback and panic attacks was …

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Project photo/proyecto foto

TW : sexual violence/violencia sexual (Castellano abajo) I made this blog because I need to speak about what happened to me, how I dealt and deal now with this shit and how I feel. It helps me a lot to write about it. To put words on my feelings. To express myself. I have been …

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Don’t call me a survivor. I do not want to survive.

I've been a victim of various sexual assaults, rape attempts and rape. I survived. In a way, I agree I am a survivor. I understand why some victims waant te be called suvivors. It is the step over the status of victim. We are not victim anymore, we are survivors, we are still here. Yes. …

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Why don’t victims report rape?

TW : Rape One of the most common question we hear  when we talk about sexual violence and rape is "Why didn't she report it immediately to the police?". Like if it was obvious. Well, if someone hit you with a baseball bat to take your wallet you will report it. If someone punch you to …

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